Category: Relationships

Connecting

I had a very special lover who had a beautiful way of connecting with me. We would communicate every day, though he was far away. He would always begin with a moment to feel into me from a distance. To feel my energy and connect. And then he would ask, “what is there for you today?”

This feels like a beautiful way to connect with each other. I feel very blessed to have had this experience for over a year. 

Fall In

Maybe one day
you will realize
it’s not the end of the world
to fall in with me.

Or maybe it is.

And you will realize
Thank GOD, that world is ended.

Now the more beautiful world
can begin.

Have you been told you’re “too much”?

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Many of us have been told we are “too much” or “too intense”. We talk too much, love too hard, speak too loudly, cry too much, and on and on.

I’m here to tell ya that’s simply not true.

The result of being told this from the time we are little (or anytime), is that we tend to shut down. We tend to not express. We tend to let it stay inside.

What do you think happens then?

You guessed it! We end up being MORE TOO MUCH. Because it’s all bottled up.

As this message has been floating back to me from one client and friend after another recently, it’s been really sticking in my mind. I am also one of those people who is sometimes TOO MUCH, especially when it comes to romantic love. (My current favorite wisdom on on being too much in romantic love is expressed in this video from Bentinho Massaro: Directional Love vs. Radial Love.) But this concept can apply to just about any area of our lives we feel too big, too loud, too intense, too too anything.

My dear friend, Hand Analyst Chrisstine Gulrajani, has told me I have what is called a big heart line. One of the things she recommended was that I continue to grow my audience… because I have SO MUCH TO GIVE!

Isn’t this a lovely way to look at it? If you have been considered “too much” in any area… you have a lot to give! What’s the solution? There are infinite solutions of course, but what has been coming to me strongly this week is just what Chrisstine suggested to me:

Increase your audience.

That doesn’t mean you need to start writing or doing videos or even have a blog. But maybe you do. Maybe one or all of those things are a perfect outlet for all you have to give.

What it does mean is that those of us with this issue might need a larger support network. And, in fact, this is true of most people. We need a basket of support. We might need to have a partner or a lover, a best friend, and a number of other friends that we go to when we need to express. And we might need to express things to an audience through any of the above methods or another of your choosing.

The point is, the way you were created is not a flaw.

The point is, you were created just perfectly. If there is more than someone wants, spread it around!

We are social creatures. In our current society, it’s not uncommon for us to become more or less dependent on our partner for most of our social needs. This is not romantic and generally not healthy. We need friends. We need community.

If you’re having a hard time finding the right people for you, stop, take a breath, and ask your angels to bring them to you. Honestly. It can be that simple. Just ask. Open a window of possibility for grace to enter. I bet the right people begin to come your way. And in expressing to more people, your expression becomes more balanced.

Tell us how you feel about this in the comments. If you’d like more support, an energy session may be for you.

Bless.

 

Kindness over Cleverness

Sometimes I wish I was one of those people who gets ahead in life while being a smartass.

To clarify, it’s a certain cut-to-the-quick wit that can sometimes be perceived as mean or wicked. It never gets me anywhere I want. In my 20s, I decided that if I had to choose between clever and kind, I would be kind. And I try not to bring out dirty laundry publicly.

But I watched 2 shows last night..
One called Everything is Copy about writer Nora Ephron and one being Carrie Fisher’s Wishful Drinking one woman comedy show. (Both fascinating portraits of these amazing women.)

But, damn, those bitches let everyone have it! And they were SUCCESSFUL with that shit. I’m sure they experienced fall out, too. I don’t believe it’s my path to be like that, but sometimes it feels like fun. There is an inner bitch in me that would love to just FLATTEN people when I feel like it. But, like mentioned above, it’s never been received well… she can be taught!

What I have learned is that there is still amazing cleverness and humor to be had, even when one weeds out the cleverness that cuts. If you have a habit of choosing cleverness that cuts, reformation is possible. It’s a practice. You won’t be successful 100% of the time in the beginning.

When you choose the path of kindness, it also doesn’t mean that you will never be clever. You may feel clever less at first, but there is a flower in it:

Your cleverness will have a beautiful safety that people will want to be around.

If you lack impulse control on these things, start a meditation practice. Meditation brings out the Witness part of our larger selves. It lengthens the space between the stimulation and response. It allows for greater and more divine choice.

I got really inspired when I imagined what the world would be like if we all chose kindness over cleverness. Can you imagine that? Take a moment. Again, remember that choosing kindness does not eradicate clever humor. It refines it. It alchemizes it, turning base metal into gold. Far more valuable.

One of my favorite books is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. The First Agreement is Be Impeccable with Your Word. This is a deep path if you choose it. It’s not easy. Our world is rife with gossip and nastiness. I have had to recommit over and over. But it’s so worth it. Our words are magic. What kind of magic do you want to practice?

“The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human, it is the tool of magic. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you.” -Don Miguel Ruiz

A great article on The First Agreement can be found here.

If you feel called, I’d love to support you in transforming your life with the power of your word using Energy Alchemy.

If you would like to begin a meditation practice, but need some support, I also offer one-on-one Meditation Sessions. It can be very powerful to meditate with another person. First of all, if you have a time commitment to another, you are more likely to stay committed to it. (In this case, there is also a money commitment that will keep you to it!) Second of all, there is an incredible alchemy that occurs, as Jesus said, “whenever two or more are gathered in my name”. Perhaps you have felt this before. It’s powerful.

Choosing kindness over cleverness is a beautiful path towards Heaven on Earth. The more you choose it, the more your life will transform. This transformation does not depend on the entire world making this choice. Your choice alone will transform your life. And you may bring the rest of the world with you. Here’s to Heaven on Earth.

I’d love to hear from you. Please share you experiences with this practice in the comments. Bless.