Forgiveness: the art of releasing the need for things to be other than as they are.
Yesterday, I suddenly needed a new sheet for my bed. I just wanted to replace the sheet with the same thing because mine got a hole in it. So we went to the store, and those sheets were on sale! YAY!
They had every single sheet but the one I needed. The color that matched in my size of bed. Boooooo.
I was having that kind of day. (If I didn’t know better, I would have thought Mercury was retrograde.) All sorts of shit was blowing up and acting weird. I was pretty disappointed. There were 2 alternate colors I could get that would kind of coordinate, but not MATCH. I vacillated. I couldn’t decide. My son helped me decide to get the robin’s egg blue, which actually matches my walls. Ok, bummer. No matching sheets. Somehow, I was still disappointed. I can get just a touch OCD sometimes. I even had them check in the back to see if they had any more. Nope. Ok, whatever.
I came home and did all sorts of house and mom stuff. I’d had a long day and didn’t actually get the sheet on the bed until around 9:00pm. It ended up being a pretty perfect match to my wall. After making the bed and getting ready for sleep, I pulled back the covers to get in. The semi-surprise and beauty of the blue color simply delighted me. It really is one of my favorite colors.
I was really sure in the store that I was disappointed. I was sure for hours that I was disappointed. Turns out, what the universe delivered actually delighted me. I felt that way all last night and all day today whenever I have seen it: delighted.
Sometimes we end up loving that thing we think we didn’t want.
Every single person is worthy of having their basic needs met. Because they exist.
Anything that says otherwise is some bizarre conditioning humans picked up along the way from living in this slave society we’ve co-created.
Every single person is worthy of having their basic needs met.
I simply do not understand any argument against this. It’s all bullshit.
Please extrapolate this idea to your personal life. Realize that you are worthy of of every single need, want, heart’s desire. You do not need to earn a single, damn thing.
I’m coming out hard on this one because it’s so absurd.
If we all woke up tomorrow understanding our inherent worthiness, this world would transform. We can do this on a global/political level. But it’s likely it has to come on a personal level first.
It’s preposterous to me that as a society it is not our number one priority that each individual has a safe place to live, food, clothing, and health care. I’m incredulous that anyone argues against this. So, I’m doing my thing. I’m shouting the truth I see into the wind, hoping others pick it up, too. The more of us who pick this up, the better.
We have the ability to make this happen. We have the ability to create a society where we all have our needs met and have time and space to develop ourselves as people. Don’t ask me about the economics of it. There are other people who can figure that out. There are probably hundreds of plans in existence already. I know it’s true. It’s the will we need, and the details will follow.
But first we have to care. About others. About ourselves.
There is no difference.
How does society change if everyone has a place to live, food to eat, clothes to wear, healthcare, and time to develop themselves?
This scenario does not just benefit the one who is receiving these things. We all benefit from this scenario.
Envision it with me. Believe.
There is a natural human need to be wild. A part of us that just wants to be free in the world as our sovereign selves. To escape the mundane, to evade the usual, to have a wide open road in front of us. If even for just 2 hours. Even if it’s just across town.
There is a part of us that very much needs to not be tied to texts, email, social media, or even the person we love most in the world.
There is a part of us that needs to just feel our selves and the air in front of us with no obligation.
We all need this time. Some of us more than others. We have a complementary need for security, but most people understand and spend their lives in service to the security need.
When do we service our wildness with no obligation?
Understanding the importance of this can help a lot of things. It can help us to not feel guilty when we want to break away from loved ones. It can help us to not feel slighted when loved ones need to break away from us. And I’m serious, sometimes 2-8 hours is enough. But we all need it sometimes.
Taking this need into consideration and allowing the space for it in our lives and relationships can mean the difference between health and implosion.
I don’t have all the answers of how to make this work in your life. The solutions are infinite. Your soul will tell you. I’m writing this as a spark of inspiration, a permission slip to tell you that you are not wrong or bad for wanting to break free sometimes. Our world has become so much more free in some ways and so much more tethered in others. It’s ok to break those tethers sometimes. It’s normal to want that.
You are human.
You are sovereign.
You are divine.
If you feel drawn to more support on this or any other topic important to your heart, book an Energy Session.
Many of us have been told we are “too much” or “too intense”. We talk too much, love too hard, speak too loudly, cry too much, and on and on.
I’m here to tell ya that’s simply not true.
The result of being told this from the time we are little (or anytime), is that we tend to shut down. We tend to not express. We tend to let it stay inside.
What do you think happens then?
You guessed it! We end up being MORE TOO MUCH. Because it’s all bottled up.
As this message has been floating back to me from one client and friend after another recently, it’s been really sticking in my mind. I am also one of those people who is sometimes TOO MUCH, especially when it comes to romantic love. (My current favorite wisdom on on being too much in romantic love is expressed in this video from Bentinho Massaro: Directional Love vs. Radial Love.) But this concept can apply to just about any area of our lives we feel too big, too loud, too intense, too too anything.
My dear friend, Hand Analyst Chrisstine Gulrajani, has told me I have what is called a big heart line. One of the things she recommended was that I continue to grow my audience… because I have SO MUCH TO GIVE!
Isn’t this a lovely way to look at it? If you have been considered “too much” in any area… you have a lot to give! What’s the solution? There are infinite solutions of course, but what has been coming to me strongly this week is just what Chrisstine suggested to me:
Increase your audience.
That doesn’t mean you need to start writing or doing videos or even have a blog. But maybe you do. Maybe one or all of those things are a perfect outlet for all you have to give.
What it does mean is that those of us with this issue might need a larger support network. And, in fact, this is true of most people. We need a basket of support. We might need to have a partner or a lover, a best friend, and a number of other friends that we go to when we need to express. And we might need to express things to an audience through any of the above methods or another of your choosing.
The point is, the way you were created is not a flaw.
The point is, you were created just perfectly. If there is more than someone wants, spread it around!
We are social creatures. In our current society, it’s not uncommon for us to become more or less dependent on our partner for most of our social needs. This is not romantic and generally not healthy. We need friends. We need community.
If you’re having a hard time finding the right people for you, stop, take a breath, and ask your angels to bring them to you. Honestly. It can be that simple. Just ask. Open a window of possibility for grace to enter. I bet the right people begin to come your way. And in expressing to more people, your expression becomes more balanced.
Tell us how you feel about this in the comments. If you’d like more support, an energy session may be for you.
Sometimes I wish I was one of those people who gets ahead in life while being a smartass.
To clarify, it’s a certain cut-to-the-quick wit that can sometimes be perceived as mean or wicked. It never gets me anywhere I want. In my 20s, I decided that if I had to choose between clever and kind, I would be kind. And I try not to bring out dirty laundry publicly.
But I watched 2 shows last night..
One called Everything is Copy about writer Nora Ephron and one being Carrie Fisher’s Wishful Drinking one woman comedy show. (Both fascinating portraits of these amazing women.)
But, damn, those bitches let everyone have it! And they were SUCCESSFUL with that shit. I’m sure they experienced fall out, too. I don’t believe it’s my path to be like that, but sometimes it feels like fun. There is an inner bitch in me that would love to just FLATTEN people when I feel like it. But, like mentioned above, it’s never been received well… she can be taught!
What I have learned is that there is still amazing cleverness and humor to be had, even when one weeds out the cleverness that cuts. If you have a habit of choosing cleverness that cuts, reformation is possible. It’s a practice. You won’t be successful 100% of the time in the beginning.
When you choose the path of kindness, it also doesn’t mean that you will never be clever. You may feel clever less at first, but there is a flower in it:
Your cleverness will have a beautiful safety that people will want to be around.
If you lack impulse control on these things, start a meditation practice. Meditation brings out the Witness part of our larger selves. It lengthens the space between the stimulation and response. It allows for greater and more divine choice.
I got really inspired when I imagined what the world would be like if we all chose kindness over cleverness. Can you imagine that? Take a moment. Again, remember that choosing kindness does not eradicate clever humor. It refines it. It alchemizes it, turning base metal into gold. Far more valuable.
One of my favorite books is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. The First Agreement is Be Impeccable with Your Word. This is a deep path if you choose it. It’s not easy. Our world is rife with gossip and nastiness. I have had to recommit over and over. But it’s so worth it. Our words are magic. What kind of magic do you want to practice?
“The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human, it is the tool of magic. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you.” -Don Miguel Ruiz
A great article on The First Agreement can be found here.
If you feel called, I’d love to support you in transforming your life with the power of your word using Energy Alchemy.
If you would like to begin a meditation practice, but need some support, I also offer one-on-one Meditation Sessions. It can be very powerful to meditate with another person. First of all, if you have a time commitment to another, you are more likely to stay committed to it. (In this case, there is also a money commitment that will keep you to it!) Second of all, there is an incredible alchemy that occurs, as Jesus said, “whenever two or more are gathered in my name”. Perhaps you have felt this before. It’s powerful.
Choosing kindness over cleverness is a beautiful path towards Heaven on Earth. The more you choose it, the more your life will transform. This transformation does not depend on the entire world making this choice. Your choice alone will transform your life. And you may bring the rest of the world with you. Here’s to Heaven on Earth.
I’d love to hear from you. Please share you experiences with this practice in the comments. Bless.